4 questions to ask yourself at least once a year

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Last week, Angelle and I enjoyed 2 full days retreating in a cottage on Lake Michigan. A client generously offered her place to us. What a gift for the soul of our business to step away from our offices and get into the woods, sit by the fire, walk the shoreline, take some deep breaths and connect on a different level.


We did a fair bit of resting, reading, slowing down. We also checked in with how things are going for The Nourish to Flourish Society and for one another.


We had lots of things we wanted to discuss and creating space for this retreat afforded fewer distractions, more connection and more time.


I pulled out a 4-question series that my husband and I have been using for the past several years. Every now and again we use it for a variety of areas in our life: marriage, parenting, work, finances, exercise, community involvement, friendships, home responsibilities.


We take an area (i.e. marriage) and thoughtfully and thoroughly answer the 4 questions. And then go to the next area and answer the questions again.


We go through the series of questions for each area on our own and then bring our answers on a date night to talk about them.


Being the end of the year, I thought it would be fun for Angelle and me to answer these for ourselves and for our business. I’m always amazed at what emerges from these four questions, so I thought I’d share them with you today.


This is a wonderful exercise to do as you approach the end of 2018 and begin a new year. And really, an awesome exercise to do any time you feel stuck, need to reassess, or want to feel inspired and connected to your life and those in it.

It’s simply an awareness tool that can help you gauge the direction you’re going (question 1 & 2) and course-correct if you need to (question 3) and create a lens to see a larger deeper picture (question 4).


Here are the 4 Questions:

  1. What’s Working?

  2. What’s Not Working?

  3. What’s Missing?

  4. What’s Emerging?


You can ask these four questions for any of the areas I mention above (marriage, finances, parenting etc.) or create categories like physical health; mental health; spiritual health; emotional health etc. You could do this with a child or as a family or with a business partner etc.


Make it work for you.

The key is to write down your answers. There’s power in taking the time to write down your answers (versus just answering them in your head).


Have fun with it and we’d love to hear how this resonates with you!