If I had a chocolate Hail Merrie macaroon for every time a woman tells me she needs more willpower, well let's just say, I'd be a pretty happy girl.
I'm not big on relying on willpower. In fact it's a surefire way to NOT be successful at eating healthier.
Often when you decide to eat healthier, you think you have to rely on willpower. Needing to use a lot of willpower to 'not eat'. It usually ends up leaving you exhausted and obsessed with food, which means by about 9 p.m., if not sooner, you find yourself elbow-deep into a bag of chips or a carton of ice cream or scarfing down the package of cookies. Then, soon after, you're shaming yourself for failing - again - or you decide to ignore the binge - again - and start over tomorrow.
There's good reason for 'getting off track with your diet', especially after a few days of relying on willpower. Willpower's actually been studied and guess what? You have a set amount each day. When you use it all up throughout the day - by forcing yourself to eat low-cal, low-fat, low-point foods or to eat small amounts of food and by resisting food that really tastes good - by the evening, or after a few days of this kind of constriction, restraint and control, well, your willpower is pretty much used up. Add to all this the fact that you're likely overtired and stressed from parenting, navigating relationships and working, and your well of willpower is pretty dried up. The bottom line is that willpower is an unfaithful tool for you to rely on if you really want to eat healthier or put any other healthy habit into place.
I remember when I relied on willpower a lot to stop eating so much sugar. After a few days I'd find myself eating every sugary thing in sight. I didn't have anymore willpower to NOT eat the Oreos so it wouldn't have been unusual for me to eat the whole package!
When you find yourself always at battle with your cravings and your hunger and telling yourself you need more willpower, it's often because your body is trying to give you some information in the only way she knows how -- through those very cravings and that hunger. She's trying to tell you she needs you to "eat more, eat more; I need you to eat this or that because I really need the Friendly Fat or the Powerful Protein or a certain nutrient". She's actually trying to get you the message that the low-fat, low-cal, skipping meals, counting points stuff doesn't work for her and she's not getting what she needs to look and feel great. And then she holds onto the extra weight because for your body, this lack of calories and nutrients and pleasure is an emergency situation.
What I've learned over the years and what we help women learn in our 14 Day Reset is that when you eat more of the right foods at the right times, your body gets happier and happier. (Did I mention your body needs lots and lots of Friendly Fat and if she doesn't get it you will be non-stop hungry and have crazy cravings???)
I loved reading one of the posts in our private Reset community that was shared yesterday (on day 4!) of eating this way:
"Wow, did that call resonate with me!!! Either of your stories could of very well have been about me too. I've struggled with cravings my whole life. These past few days have been amazing though. I just can't believe how eating the balanced diet...including those friendly fats has made such a difference for me. I've always avoided fat, always thought I should eat a low fat, low calorie diet. So this is crazy!!! I'm not counting calories, I'm eating fat, I'm not hungry, I'm happier than I've been in a long time and I have more energy. My kids have even noticed a difference in my mood. Before I started the 14-Day Reset...there was some doubt. I did think in the back of my mind this was just another one of those crazy fad diet plans. Wow, was I wrong!! I'm am so thankful that I signed up for this and am part of this journey with all these wonderful ladies. Thank you!!!! ❤️❤️
As I became more nourished and my body was less antagonized by sugar and processed foods, her messages to me calmed down and became more fine-tuned. I wasn't ravenous all the time. My cravings for sugar calmed way down and even went away most days. This is what happens when you eat more of the right foods at the right times. You experience less and less of a battle that involves willpower, and instead, you experience way more pleasure in your relationship with food and feel happier than you have in a long time.
So, what are two steps you can take so you don't have to rely on willpower to eat healthier?
One: Eat a breakfast with a lot of Friendly Fat and Powerful Protein within an hour of getting up. Go really low on carbs in the morning.
Two: Eat your biggest meal by 2 p.m. and make sure to include lots of Colorful Carbs in the form of veggies, a moderate amount of Powerful Protein in the form of high quality animal food and plenty of Friendly Fat, i.e. raw nuts and seeds, avocados, avocado or olive oil, pasture-raised meat.
Need some meal idea inspiration + recipes? Click HERE.
And if you want to really feel what it feels likes to NOT have to rely on willpower for the rest of your life when it comes to eating healthier, you can register for our October 8th 14-Day Reset now. The menu plan + recipes are all done for you and they are delicious! Click HERE to be proactive and reserve your spot!